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Do you feel fat? Or do you feel scared? Rejected? Uncomfortable? Angry? Insecure? Ashamed? Guilty?





Do you feel fat? Or do you feel scared? Rejected? Uncomfortable? Angry? Insecure? Ashamed? Guilty? Abandoned? Unloved? Tired?


fat is not a feeling.


we need to disassociate fat from "bad".


which means not using fat as an insult,


not telling someone they are not fat if they have mentioned they have gained weight,


and not describing feelings as fat.


because although your body fat does not change day to day,


someone's "feelings of fatness" tend to increase and decrease.


which means "fatness" is a smokescreen for actual feelings.


and so when you feel low, it feels automatic to blame your body and label it as "fat".


reaffirming that fat = bad.


next time you notice yourself "feeling fat", be compassionately curious;


- recognise that you are feeling something


- accept that you are feeling an emotion and try to name that emotion - the primary emotions tend to be happy, sad, fearful and angry.


- commit not to blaming your body for this emotion


- investigate this emotion with compassion - where do you feel it in the body? is it a colour? a shape? an emptiness?


- bring up the feelings wheel (feelingswheel.com) and try and name the emotion in detail, or perhaps there is more than one


- don't identify with the emotion "I am feeling helpless right now, but I know I am not helpless". knowing that emotions are not bad or good.


- reaffirm with visualisation that just like the ocean waves, emotions will come and they will go again.


- ground yourself by taking 10 deep breaths


- note down what was happening before you started feeling this way, what were you thinking about? who were you with? what were you doing? become aware of the situations that trigger these feelings.

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