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You are not a bad person for wanting to pursue weight loss


you are not a bad person for wanting to pursue weight loss.


dieting, just like compulsive eating may feel protective + safe in the midst of a collective crisis.


if you compulsively eat, restrict or exercise obsessively please know that these are safety seeking mechanism, be gentle, they are a learnt way to leave yourself when life gets really hard.


knowing that these are “maladaptive” coping behaviours can shift the blame + help us to look at them with compassion + kindness. It enable us to learn healthy coping mechanism to try when life gets tough, whilst slowly feeling safe + supported enough to tolerate discomfort through distress tolerance + loving kindness practises.


Here are some of my favourite ways to practice loving kindness ...


- write down three things that you appreciate about yourself each day,


- look for the good in others, finding the good in ourselves helps us see the good in others too.


- visualise what happiness feels like for you. Remember that everyone desires happiness but what happiness means may get distorted along the way by other's views + our own experiences. Does thin really equate to happiness or is that a message you picked up along the way?


- perform a regular loving - kindness meditation (lots to choose from on youtube)


- cultivate gratitude for all the people that have supported you along your journey so far


- practise one act of generosity every day


- refrain from speaking negatively of yourself or others.


- repeat realistic + loving affirmations “I am learning to honour my needs”.


- note down the moments that you feel rested, peaceful and calm. How can you re-create these into your every day life?


- schedule in self soothing behaviours daily, these are anything that engages the senses and brings us back to the present moment and occupying our bodies - eg


- a shower - really feeling the water on your skin


- lighting a candle


- putting scented oil on your wrist


- enjoying a hot tea mindfully


- changing your sheets


- walking bare foot on the ground (careful of frost bite!)


- moisturising your body, face or hands